Vegan Dating

It’s almost Valentine’s day! Did you check out my Valentine’s recipe Fair Share yet? Are you going to share this with your love or will you be, just like me, alone on the day of love? No worries, the smoothie bowl tastes great on your own too, haha! Just what if you wish you did have someone to share it with? Almost everybody likes to have a partner in life. A love partner. You can have a lot of close friends, but even then, for many there is still the urge to share every-day-life in a deeper way. Maybe just to share your happiness and pain, but a lot of people also like a partner to give new life. Having children is a primitive instinct. And even though nowadays there are ways to be a single parent, most of us like to share this with a partner. Anyway, if you would like to have children or not, finding a life partner often is desired. It’s not always easy and it can be a journey. It’s about getting to know yourself, what you want and very important too, what you do not want. Some people are lucky to find their partner early in life, but it can also be a struggle. Life can be very unfair when it comes to love. And like if it isn’t complicated enough, what if you’re vegan? Do you only date other vegans? How important is it for you to have a partner who is sharing the same lifestyle?

My first personal reaction would be, no way I will go out with a non vegan. But, looking back at the boyfriends I have had since being vegan, I can’t say that any of them was actually vegan. They weren’t even vegetarian. They were always respectful in a way that they wouldn’t eat meat when I was around and one of them even became a vegetarian whilst we were dating. He isn’t anymore, because doing something like that for somebody else, doesn’t work. I needs to click. You need to see and feel for yourself why veganism is the only way. I’m single now (so life is easy, haha!) and if I think about it now, I ‘m not sure how I managed dating non vegans. I think love does really make blind. Though, it’s also a process I think. The feeling of sharing life, whilst sharing the importance of the same life values, needed to grow. My last boyfriend, whom I loved so very much, was very interested in veganism and my hope was always that he’d become one. I was convinced he would one day actually (our break up had nothing to do with veganism). By that time I grew so much, that I knew I couldn’t deal with it if he would have said he’d never ever be a vegan. It would have meant that he experienced life in a very different way from how I did. In my opinion, even though you can be different in so many ways, seeing life in a similar way is key for a good relationship. If I now ask myself the question: would I date a non vegan. I’d say, ‘only if I can feel he has the compassion and love in his soul to become one’. Veganism is my biggest passion. It’s not only about not eating and not exploiting animals, but about everything around it. Veganism is love. The love you feel for the whole world, the small details and the way you see life.

Soulmates :recipe >>

Some couples are ok with living 2 different lifestyles. I mean, if you are ok with your partner supporting the exploitation of animals and you see it as their own personal choice, then good for you. But what if you don’t and what if you are dating a non vegan atm? Or what if you are already in a relationship for a long time, but you recently became a vegan and your partner doesn’t understand? I would find this really hard myself, because it means you’re growing as a person and your partner isn’t growing in the same direction. You can feel very alone and misunderstood. You have to ask yourself the question if you can live with this. I’m not saying to just break up right now. If you are in a long-term relationship, then you don’t just throw that away. Sometimes it needs time. Maybe your partner just feels very misunderstood too. You have to talk about this. Suggest watching a documentary together or reading the same book. Focus on education. If that doesn’t help or your partner doesn’t even want to, then I think you should question your relationship. When your partner loves and respects you, he or she should at least be open to your change of  lifestyle.

To make things more complicated, what if you have children and you and your partner have a very different view on veganism? This I think is one of the trickiest situations. There are so many aspects. If the children are too young to educate them and they can’t make their own choices yet, I think the best way is to compromise. For example: they don’t eat meat, but they do consume some dairy products. Talk about this and come up with a plan you both feel ok with. If the children are old enough you can educate them and they can make the choice themselves.

Now what if you’re single and you really are determined to meet the vegan-love-of-your-life? Well, personally I think faith is faith.. but that doesn’t mean faith can’t happen through a dating app.. right? I’m sure the majority of you knows about Tinder, but did you  know that there is a similar dating app for vegetarian and vegans? It’s called ‘Grazer’. It basically works the same way as Tinder. Go check it out.. and you might be just in time for Wednesday!

Do you recognise yourself in any of this? Are you single, but would you like to be in a relationship? Or are you in a relationship with a non vegan? Please share your views and help each other! You can do this in the comments below! Thank you! XX

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Clipper Tea / Love Me Truly

img_1347CLIPPER – LOVE ME TRULY
Happy Valentine’s Day everybody! Especially for today I reviewed the ‘Love Me Truly’ tea from Clipper. Ok, I have to admit, the first time I bought this tea is because of the beautiful box. I was pleasantly surprised that it’s a Chai Infusion though. I love Chai tea, it’s my favourite. So that’s why I turned these bags of love into cups of love, as in Chai lattes. A little more than 2 weeks ago I gave you the little recipe of how I make the Chai lattes myself. Super easy, but super yummy! A good thing about this Clipper Tea is that it’s organic, so only goodness in your cup and no nasty pesticides. Check out the recipe here and make sure to make this heart warming drink tonight..

Did you already know this tea or are you going to try it after reading this? Please let me know or show me on Instagram by using #PlanetManel. Would you like me to test and review your product(s) or do you have any suggestions? Please send me a message via CONTACT! It can be anything (food, drinks, beauty..) as long as it’s vegan. Thank you! X

Soulmates <3

img_5821Valentine’s day is almost here, so I thought I’d give you a nice and easy recipe to make for you and your lover! ..or for the people you love and you want to share them with. Because that is what Valentine’s Day is for me, a day to celebrate love! Celebrate the love between you and you partner, you and your family, you and your friends or you and your guinea pig.. it’s all alright. I don’t like the commercial side of Valentine’s Day. The glittery hearts, sugary sweets and the teddy bears you have no idea what to do with. I rather make the people I love something nice, and put all my love in there. I’ll give them cards to express what I feel for them. Not that the 14th of February is the only day I’ll do that, but why not celebrate a day of love? This world needs all the love you can spread! Now make these easy no-bake chocolate hearts. They’re delicious.. and healthy!

img_5822SOULMATES

Serves: 12-15 pieces

filling
1/3 cup walnuts
1/2 cup soft dates (pitted)
1/4 cup desiccated coconut
1/2 tbs chia seed
2 tbs coconut oil.
1/2 tbs cocoa powder
pinch of cinnamon
pinch of salt.
sprinkles
1 tbs shredded coconut
a drop of beetroot juice
chocolate sauce
1/4 cup coconut oil (melted)
1 tbs agave nectar
1/2 tsp vanille extract
1/4 cup cacao
pinch of salt

img_5823-Put all the filling ingredients in a food processor until it’s sticky.
-Make little heart shapes using your hands or use a heart-shaped cookie cutter.
-Put them in the fridge for 30 min and in the meantime make the sprinkles and chocolate sauce.
-Mix 1 tbs of shredded coconut with 1/2 tsp of beetroot juice. Then carefully mix it with the left over coconut.
-Mix all the ingredients of the chocolate sauce together until smooth.
-Dip the hearts into the chocolate and make sure they’re all covered. Then use a fork to lift them out and place the chocolate covered hearts on a try with baking paper.
-Sprinkle the pink/white coconut over the heart before the chocolate is dry.
-Put them in the fridge overnight or for about an hour.

Even if you’re not into Valentine’s Day, I’m sure you’ll enjoy these yummy bites.. and so will your lover or whoever you want to share them with! Please let me know when you’ve tried them. You can do this in a comment below.. or you can tag me or use #PlanetManel on Instagram. Thank you! X

Lost Love

IMG_0019Do you know that feeling when you hear the first 30 seconds of a song and you know it’ll be one of your favourite songs?! When I heard the song ‘I hate you, I love you’ from ‘Gnash’ on the radio for the first time I instantly started to love that song. It gave me inspiration to write this poem. What also inspired me is that so many people (my age or even older) are still all about clubbing, drinking and enjoying the nightlife. I never liked that and never did clubbing myself and I never will. It’s just not for me. Sometimes it’s a shame if I meet a very nice person, but he’s all about going out in the weekend. Call me boring, but I just rather stay at home with a good book, hot tea and a bar of chocolate.. haha!

LOST LOVE

Every single weekend dancing in the club,
high heels, a drink in HER hand, bottoms up.
Hair down, hips swinging and flirting eyes,
HER dress just covers, but the perfect size.
Don’t stop, don’t think, not even for a bit,
as all guys are looking and she’s loving it.

That’s why I hate that I hate that I love you,
because that’s the girl you’re addicted to.
No matter what I do or how hard I try,
all I get back is words which end in a lie.
And still I miss you and I won’t ever leave,
though there is no love for me to receive.

Sometimes I feel lots of anger towards you,
from what you say or from what you do.
Every time something within me dies,
hearing nothing but excuses and lies.
I’m sick of the fact that you are using me,
but I’ll always be in love with you, you see.

For you I will always do everything,
as you are my dream, hero and king.
It is too real and for me that is not fair,
as my lost feelings will forever be there.
There is no possible way to get rid of,
what means I will keep wasting my love.

It’s a high price to pay, the ultimate cost,
as no matter what, my true love will be lost.
Because for you there will never be a cure,
and in no world will I ever be HER.

Did you like my poem? Would you like to say something about it or do you have any other thoughts? Please let me know in a comment below! Thank you! X

One Day

Screen Shot 2016-04-24 at 00.46.57One day I was, in my opinion, in front of the most beautiful building of Paris: the Sacre Coeur. I was enjoying the last sun rays of this amazing city, as I was omw to the train station to go back home. Paris is the city of love and I can’t agree more as this poem came to me whilst sitting there on the stairs, after having lovely, inspirational days. Nothing inspires me more than going to unfamiliar places by myself. So even though I was completely alone (with another 4574087502 tourists) this poem of love, desire and attraction came to me, right there.

Screen Shot 2016-04-24 at 00.48.12Before reading it, I have to tell you that this isn’t just a normal poem. You can read it in 2 ways. You can just read it from top to bottom, probably making you feel curious and maybe even confused, but hopefully inspired. It’ll all make more sense though, if you read only the first sentences of all the verses. Then after you read only the second sentences of the verses and last but not least, all the third sentences of all the verses. Give it a go..

ONE DAY

I hope you will see me.
I hope you will miss me.
I hope you are craving.

See me and desire me.
Miss me when you’re alone.
Craving to touch my lips.

Desire me like nothing else.
Alone or with somebody.
My lips is all you need.

Nothing else will fulfil you.
Somebody or a crowd.
Need them like you need to breathe.

Fulfil you with passion.
A crowd or whoever in this world.
Breathe like you want to taste me.

Passion to cherish.
In this world with only me.
Taste me like you’re hungry.

Cherish my love for you.
Only me to fulfil your dreams.
Hungry like you’re starving.

For you to hold me.
Dreams you want to live.
Starving without me.

Hold me to protect me.
Live so you don’t feel empty.
Without me you’re lost.

Protect me one day.
Empty I felt before.
Lost I’ll be without you.

Did you like my poem? Are you writing (similar) poems? Please let me know in the comments or send me a message via contacts. Thank you! X